3 Reasons Why You Should Never Settle.
“There is no passion to be found in playing small – in settling for a life that is less than the one you are capable of living.” – Nelson Mandela.
Settling. Just the sound of that word bothers me.
Too often, I come across individuals who are settling in an area or in some cases, all areas of their life. Whether it is a relationship, a job or anything else, they are in a situation where they are living a life far less than the one they are capable of living in.
Individuals settle for a multitude of reasons – self-doubt, staying within the constraints comfort zones or living a life that that the people around you expect of you.
I am of the belief that you should never settle, no matter what the circumstances are. It is important to note that there is a real difference between settling and compromising. Compromise is often necessary for relationships to survive and to thrive, whereas settling is not.
By investing some time to analyse your current circumstances and setting some standards for yourself, you can open up the possibilities to remarkable relationships and living a remarkable life.
I am of the belief that nothing is worth costing you your health or your happiness. If a job, relationship or anything else costs you these things, then in my opinion, it’s simply not worth it. Let me be clear – that’s not to say there won’t be moments in your day where you may not feel happy, but overall, how your spend each day and who you spend it with should make you feel happy.
You are in control of your own life and making decisions for yourself. If something no longer makes you happy, you have the power to change it. Complaining about a situation won’t change anything, but taking action or changing your mindset certainly will.
Generally, there are two reasons why people don’t do things. The first is because they tell themselves they can’t do them, and the second is the people around them tell them they can’t do them. So, either they give up, or they never start in the first place.
The reality is, that everything was impossible until somebody did it. Every invention, every disruption to an industry, was started by someone who people thought were crazy. The things that we have in our head that we think are impossible, are often just milestones waiting to be accomplished. Start with little incremental pushes of what you believe is possible for yourself. This will open up the path for you to reach your full potential and to achieve greatness.
“Love yourself. Be clear on how you want to be treated. Know your worth. Always” -Maryam Hasnaa.
Understanding your worth and respecting yourself are critical aspects when it comes to not settling. If you don’t understand your worth or set standards for yourself, how will you know when someone is giving you less than you deserve? Will you just continue to accept the same bad behaviour, over and over again?
Setting high standards shows to others that you respect yourself, and that you’re not prepared to accept just anything. If you are dating someone who talks down to you or simply doesn’t meet your standards, perhaps you should re-evaluate why you are in the relationship.
Know your worth, stay true to who you are and never settle.
Do you have any thoughts or experiences on settling that you’d like to share? Please leave your comments below!
Number two struck me. I’ve said it for years – you can’t do this, you’re not pretty enough, you need to come from money… and I feel like not everyone is fully supportive. I haven’t learned how to turn that voice off yet. It ain’t easy. Great blog!
Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts and experiences so candidly. It’s so easy to engage in negative self-talk but it’s also a good reason to surround ourselves with people who see our potential and believe in us! In moments of self-doubt, it’s the people who I’ve surrounded myself with who have elevated and brought out the best in me. I’m so glad to hear you enjoyed the read!